I sat down to enjoy a cup of cinnamon and ginger tea in the midst of my holiday preparations, which include rearranging furniture, dusting, purging unwanted items and making all things lovely; all part of filling my heart with gratitude for the CHRISTmas child. Mug in hand, feet up on the old cedar chest positioned as a coffee table, I flip on the television. I normally don’t have enough hours in the day to sit and stare at the silly tube and truthfully, if it were up to me, I would not have one.
Previews of the news flash across the screen with last years images of people packed in like sardines, bodies touching bodies, elbows flinging as they race to be the first ones in the chain stores for Black Friday sales! The newscaster advised that these sales offer great benefit if you want big screen televisions, snow blowers, dvd players, pop corn poppers, cameras and everything else under fluorescent lights. A little grossed out and sickened by the whole making of Christmas a commercial commodity, I thought to myself, and may have even said aloud, “do these people not get it?”
In my lifetime, I have gone through seasons of lack and seasons of plenty. I have battled the keeping-up-with-the-Joneses mindset. I have gone through the 30-something angst that somehow my house and my car and my clothes showed my value. I have had businesses, some successful, some that have failed, climbed my way out of debt just to spiral right back down. What have I learned along the way? Life is best when it is simple.
A couple of years ago, our 150 year old house sustained some damage during a storm and we found ourselves having to move out of the lower half of the house while repairs were done. I was forced with the tough decision of having to put my beloved antiques and collectables in storage or selling them. I chose to sell everything. I wanted to rid myself of all the stuff weighing me down. When the repairs were complete on our house, we had no furniture. A relative donated a loveseat and ottoman, which sat in the living room in a big, open space all by themselves for months. I could finally see the beauty and craftsmanship of our old floors.
Why do we identify the keeping of stuff as worthiness? When difficult things happen in our lives, we begin to see more clearly the things that really matter…and I’ll give you a hint…it isn’t things. No sisters, what really matters is getting right with God in your heart and in your head. Once you begin working on this, gratitude will begin to flow from your pores. What can compare to the death of a loved one, a family member with a debilitating illness or a missing person in your family? Seriously, if you are strong enough to weather storms like this, you know that the big screen television is not as important as you once thought. You will know that no matter how much money you waste, trying to fill the hole in your heart with things, you are still hungry. You will know that what matters are the old black and white photos you hang on the wall of your grandma and grandpa kissing in front of the Christmas tree. And you will know that what really matters is the curve of a face in your memory or words that were spoken that you will keep for a lifetime because they encouraged you.
Christmas should not be about things. The first gifts – the ones that were brought to the manger by three wise men – were gifts of awe and gratitude. They knew that a Savior was born, One who would change the hearts of many. One who would redeem the messed up world in which we live. One who could…if we let him, bring peace.
We don’t do Christmas in a big way. We keep it simple and reflect upon the true meaning. White lights, like the stars that were shining that special night, and a few brown paper packages. As I dust the 100-year-old dining room table and put in an extra leaf or two, I give thanks. As I sweep the dust bunnies I find hidden under the loveseat, I give thanks. As I shine the bathroom vanity, mop the tile floor and swab the toilet bowl, I give thanks. Setting out my Christmas candles, I give thanks. Lighting the tree for the first time this season, I give thanks. As I pull out the old cardboard box filled with a hand carved wooden manger scene and the baby Jesus, I give thanks. I am preparing my heart for Christmas, the most significant day of my year. The birth of the Christ child.
We gather. We spend precious moments together, breaking bread, celebrating the joy in our hearts at the birth of hope.This is all we need.This is what really matters.
Cinnamon/Ginger Tea
Water
1 piece of Ginger (the size of a quarter)
(I buy prepackaged pieces in the organic section)
1 Cinnamon Stick
Raw Honey
Put 2-3 cups of water in a small saucepan, 1 cinnamon stick and
a piece of ginger. Bring to a full boil.
Pour into a hot mug with a tablespoon of raw honey
Yummy.
Debby Ray says
Mary…I so agree with you..this was such a great post. I feel like you about the Black Friday thing. I sickens me as well and I am not tempted in any way to go our shopping. I yearn for days to reflect a simpler time, especially around the holidays. I imagine our God cries as he sees his people acting so foolishly.
Susan says
Hello Mary…Your post was very meaningful and a good reminder of the REAL reason for the season.
I get sick over the commercialism in the stores, too.
I haven’t downsized nearly enough and will work on decluttering in the new year to come.
Thanks for your wise words. May the true meaning of Christmas fill your heart to the brim. Susan
Mary Clewley says
Thank you Susan! I just think it’s crazy when I hear about people shoving and pushing and gathering like sardines waiting to race into the stores to save a few dollsrs on things they really don’t need anyway. It all just clutters our lives and distracts us from true significance.
Celia M. High Heeled Life says
Wonderful post my friend… and so true. Thank you for sharing your ginger tea recipe – Will be giving it a try — it sounds soothing!! xo hugs and blessings, C. (HHL)
Mary Clewley says
Yes Celia…you would probably enjoy this tea in one of your beautiful teacups! Xoxo
Cami says
Beautiful post – as always. I enjoyed reading it. 🙂
Cinnamon and ginger tea?? That sounds absolutely divine. I will have to look for some the next time I am shopping.
Mary Clewley says
Thank you, Cami. I always love it when you come to visit…my sweet Florida friend.
I updated my post with the recipe for my ginger tea! Enjoy!